Are you taking time to celebrate the messy moments or is perfectionism keeping you from enjoying life?
Have you ever found yourself flipping through the latest issue of Magnolia Journal or Pinterest thinking if only…
If only I had the time or the money or the ______ my life would be so ______________? (you fill in the blanks)
Devouring a great magazine or spending time on Pinterest is one of my favorite ways to spend down time as long as I don’t forget – those photos have been staged.
The intentions of those stories or photos are to inspire us not to make us feel guilty. I don’t know about you – but I don’t need any help in that department – I can do enough of that on my own.
So take to time to browse the magazines or pin to your hearts content — as long as you REMEMBER the Mom behind all those beautiful photos does the same thing you do – she accidently vacuums up Lego’s and sometimes she forget to plan what she’s serving for dinner tonight until she glances at the clock and realizes it almost 5 pm.
And unless she has taken the time to create good habits she still struggles to get out the door on time every morning just like you.
So relax – and stop being so hard on yourself.
Like the title states — Living life organized isn’t about being perfect – It’s about finding what you need – when you need it – nothing else.
A client/friend shared an article with me today on Facebook about organizing the fridge and as I was reading the comments listed below the video – it was heartbreaking – so much judgement.
Some of the comments used very foul language to express their ‘disgust’ with people who want to ‘live like this’ – Have we really digressed to the point that someone can’t share a photo of their organized fridge without receiving so much criticism?
And on the flip side of that – do we sometimes find ourselves judging those who still struggle to ‘get it all together’ – I hope not.
A life well lived is going to get messy sometime. You just have to find a balance between the order and the chaos because if you focus too much on one or the other — you will miss some of life’s most beautiful moments.
Hey, I’m all about being organized and keeping a well maintained house (some would even call me a ‘little’ OCD) but if you come to my house and I’m in the middle of a ‘project’ or my grandkids are around then the chances are pretty good that things are ‘going to be a mess’ — and guess what — I DON’T apologize for it — I’m living my life not playing dress up.
Have I always been like this – oh my – NO – if you only knew me when – it was pretty scary!
No one is EVER going to drop by when your house is perfect (the day after you spent all day cleaning) oh no…Never…Ever!
It’s one of those ‘laws’ – like Gravity or always raining the day after you’ve had your car detailed – it inevitable!
And, as a young mom I would be mortified when someone dropped by and found things a bit ‘messy’ but thankfully I’m older and wiser and I am completely confident in my house keeping abilities but I also accept the fact that I’m very creative…so there is ALWAYS a project going on at my house – and I mean – ALWAYS.
So if you’re struggling to find a balance – don’t give up. You’ll get there and I’m here to help.
My motivation in writing this post is that you’ll ‘learn’ from my mistakes and as Bob Newhart used to say:
“Just, Stop It” – (Ok for all you millennium moms reading this — it’s time to ‘ask Siri’ who Bob Newhart is)
When life gets messy and it will – Just – PAUSE and take it in.
The next time your little one spills the milk or Hubby comes in with grass all over his clothes –
And say a prayer for the mom who wishes her child was well enough to play.
Or, remember your friend who lost her husband last year to a heart attack or cancer.
Yes, your home should be organized and well maintained but it should also be ‘lived in’ after all this is where you (and your loved ones) spend more than half their time.
Take a moment to share in the comment section below a funny story or lesson learned in the midst of one or your “messy life” moments.